Is that Guy Flirting with Me?
85It started as a typical week day for me. My alarm clock woke me from my slumber with some smooth jazz. I got dressed, brushed my teeth and hair but decided there was no need for make-up or any other beauty enhancements. I grabbed a blueberry cereal bar, slugged down an icy cold glass of milk and was out the door. I dropped Laura off at work at about 8:30AM and as I pulled out of the parking lot, I noticed the gas gauge. The car was literally running on fumes. Thankfully there is a Holiday Gas Station one block from Laura's work place.
This is where an innocent trip to the gas station, gets interesting...
I got out of my car and started pumping gas. Have you ever had that feeling like someone is watching you? I started looking around the crowded gas station parking lot. HMMM, maybe I'm just a little off today. Just as I put the gas hose back in it's holder, there it was. Someone was staring at me. It was a very handsome gentleman around my age. He smiled and waved at me. He was sitting high up in a very nice "all- boy" kind of truck. I thought to myself, "Is he looking at me or is it the person at the gas pump behind me." I came up with many scenarios of what else he could be looking at besides me. Then I started worrying that if he was looking at me, it was because I did something wrong, like cut him off in this small parking lot, or perhaps, took the gas pump he was going for. I started making my way to the front door of the Holiday Station. Before paying the attendant, I took a little detour to the ladies room. I guess I had too much milk for breakfast. Walking out of the bathroom and down the canned goods isle, I nearly bumped right into him. It was the man that may or may not have been staring at me. He looked at me and gave me a really warm smile and kind hello. I reciprocated but continued walking towards the front of the store to pay the cashier. Now my mind was racing and asking many questions, like, "wasn't he on his way out of the parking lot?" "Is this a coincidence that he came back in the store and down the same aisle?" "Maybe he forgot to buy something the first time." I was now at the front paying for my gas and he appeared once again. He waved and flashed those pearly whites at me and was out the door. "Don't look out the door Linda, you'll look like a freak" I thought to myself, but I couldn't help it. I tried to be discreet as I peeked around the door. To my embarrassment, he had turned around as he walked to his truck to see if I would look. He waved and smiled. I said my goodbyes to the cashier and knew I had to go out to my car sometime. I rushed to my car, put the key in the ignition and looked around. He was now parked even closer to my car and gave me another smile and wave. He gave me a finger point to show me which way he was heading. I waited for him to pull out and then made my escape in the opposite direction. I was talking and laughing out loud on my way home, realizing I had been flirted with, at a gas station. I actually think he believed I may follow him to his destination. Maybe he was thinking of meeting up at a safe place like Caribou Coffe, unless he was an axe murderer and hoping I'd follow him to his isolated cabin. I prefer to think this handsome gentleman only had the best of intentions. A woman can dream can't she? No matter what this guy was all about, I have a great story to share and I must say, it felt really good having a man go to so much trouble to make sure I noticed he was flirting with me.
© 2011 Linda Rogers
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Funny story. I think he was just a nice gentleman who liked you very much. I guess, your reciprocal reaction was not as strong as his feelings and that's why you did not come to talk to him... But really does gas station romance have any chance?
He was too egotistical. If he wanted to get to know you, he should have introduced himself and given you a chance to respond.
Expecting you to follow him like a puppy tells you what that relationship would have been like.
Yes a Woman can Dream, and this was a fun read...However you are also a Smart Woman, and a little Flirtation goes along way and probably made you feel good all day...No harm in that...and thank goodness your story did have Happy Ending.
When you say, "I tried to be discreet as I peeked around the door," maybe it gave you away that you were standing on the cashier's desk and banging on the window with a can of baked beans that made him turn and wave. There are degrees of discretion, Linda!
Flirting is always fun but I agree with Will it just doesn't sound right. Peace!! Tom
i have to agree with WillStarr if he really wanted to get to know you, he should have spoken up! Otherwise he was saying "Woman, you want to know me, you gotta put forth the effort.." And I also agree that it could have been potentially dangerous.
BUT, DANG it was fun wasn't it? Even if for just a moment.. The heart begins to race, the blood flows into your cheeks, you probably even checked your reflection somewhere along the way... Yeah... that is FUN!!
You know you got that 'Vote up' from me!!
I think it is sad we have chosen to shut warm flirts out of our life. The small percentage of so called evil doers have taken precedence in our life and fear has caused us to be cold animals rather than helpful caring social creatures.
The flirting person should only be considered dangerous if he followed you and stocked you.... until then he is innocent until proven guilty not guilty until proven innocent.
It is extremely sad we have shut out warmth and love from our fellow travelers in this walk of life. No -- it is SICK that we have become a society of fearful human beings.
Crap - a flirt is a moment of warmth... a moment of love... a moment of a gift from our creator reminding us that we are worthy.
Oh, that was exiting... but of course not worthwhile to react on. Just enjoy. Surf the waves of your heart... before they break on the shore...
The ball was in his hand and he had no idea how to hit it in the court of a lovely lady like you. Perhaps at the next gas station he will find a poor puppy-kind of a woman who will follow him to end of his finger.
May you soon have another exiting experience, but with Mr. Right.
Minnetonka Twin
What a riot. I love all the protectors out there for you. You have made many friends here on hub pages. I agree you should feel it and know you did the right thing.
Great story and I too have to agree with Will. Who knows you may just bump into him again and this time hopefully he will introduce himself rather than point for you to follow :)
What a Fun and funny Hub. I think every male that is overtly interested is an ax murderer, and have had my daughter say, "Mom, didn't you GET IT? He was flirting with you!" Er, no I didn't get it. Thank you for the smiles and laugh. :0)
I met my husband at a car wash of all places; not very romantic. He definitely flirted, but he was a gentleman and introduced himself, and things progressed safely from there. Sometimes we have to rely on our instincts, and this station flirtation may have been fun -- and that's always cool - but I wouldn't have taken it any further.
Good hub!
MT - The last time I made the mistake of flirting with a gal I didn't know I wound up getting married to her. Now 58 years later I am still trying to figure out what happened.
Gus :-)))
hey like the words "warm flirt" in the comments.
flirting is harmless, flirting is fun and flirting is acknowdeldgement of that we appreciate the good in the person.
love to flirttt but if i meet you in a parking lot Linda i will pretend i have not even noticed how pretty you are.lollll
...yes and his name was Colin aka the epigramman ..... thank you for making my life here at the Hub precious and rewarding because you are in it - treating me with respect and dignity - and yes I look up to you - too!
Hi Minnetonka Twin, great hub, If you run into this friendly guy again maybe you may know for sure if he was flirting with you or not......time will tell !
Have a great weekend my friend !
CUTE--would make a nice movie scene!!
Fun and funny... Those kinds of little sparkly things can add a lift to the day, can't they? I do believe you did the right thing by being cautious though. A charmer of a story.
Thanks nightbear. Ya, in this day in age you never know what a person may do. Too bad isn't it? He sure was cute though. LOL
Hi Moncrieff-Sure gas station romance can happen. I think if it's the right person, you could meet anywhere. I have heard many neat stories of meeting a soul-mate at strange places, like funerals, weddings, grocery stores, etc...
YOU are soo right WillStarr-If he was that interested, he could've been a mature gentleman and introduced himself. That is kinda wierd the way he handled the situation. I certainly have no interest in following anyone like a puppy. So not me. Thanks for your words of wisdom:)
Thanks b.Malin-Ya, it was just a little stroke to my womanly ego and felt good. No way would I ever follow someone I don't know. His style of meeting a woman was gutless as WillStarr mentioned. He needs to be more assertive and up front. The way he did it, there was no chance to get to know him because I'm not following a stranger:(
You caught me TwilightLawns. How did you know I was standing on the counter. I thought it sounded better for my story that I was discreet. LOL :)
Justom-I totally agree with you and Will-Something was off with his approach. Glad I took off but I'm not the type that would have ever followed a total stranger. Especially with all the CSI episodes I watch. Too many scaries out there for real. Thanks for your comment friend:)
Thanks SweetSusie-Yes, I did look in my mirror and thought, "wierd, Don't even have any make-up on." It was fun but I agree with all of you that it was most definitely a potential danger. I never even thought about the cockiness of him until Will said something. I love HubPages comments because you see so many points of view that you had never even thought about. I did feel it was kinda nice to have a handsome man flirt with me but that's as far as it went in my mind. Have a good weekend my friend:)
No doubt Neil-It is sad we have to be so careful this day in age but his flirting really did make my day. I havn't been flirted with for so long. I did give him big smiles and waves right back, so it was all fun. I just would never follow a stranger but the incident itself was safe, fun and exciting. Thanks for coming by, I appreciate it:)
Hi Martie-I loved your words, "surf the waves of your heart before they break on shore." You are so poetic my dear friend. Yes, it was fun, but no following strangers for me. It sure feels good to know the opposite sex still appreciates my Maturity. LOL
Hey sis-You know I'd never follow a stranger but it sure was fun. I know, I love my hubber buds. Knight's in Shining Armour for me.
Hi Susan-I too agree with Will. He may have had a caribou buddy, had he just introduced himself and showed me some maturity. It sure was fun though-HEE HEE:)
Hi Lilly-Aren't our kids the first to let you know when were being clueless. So glad I made you laugh. It was a fun and unexpected experience and stroke to the ego.
I think meeting at a car wash is a great place Genna-It's probably better and smarter than a bar, for instance. You are so right that your husband introduced himself and let you get a feel for him, where I did not get that. It does make you just say, "HMMM."
Gus, your a hoot. I bet you were a gentleman when you met your wife and at the least introduced yourself. Am I right?? I thought so:)
I liked the comment "warm flirting" too. I am all for flirting neeleskulkarni!! I too see that flirting, is a gesture to acknowledge another. I may have met him at a local coffee shop had he given me more than a wave and smile. I'm pretty good at feeling people out if I get the chance to talk with them. I bet, had I seen you in that parking lot, we'd be having coffee right now:)LOL
Hi colin-You can flirt with me anytime because you introduced yourself and are my hubpages Prince:)
Hey Kashmir-Actually, I go to this particular gas station quite often because sis works close-by. Wouldn't it be cool if he was just nervous and introduced himself next time. HMMMM?? Never thought about the fact I may bump into him again. I will keep you posted:)
Hi Garnetbird-That would make a cute movie scene, wouldn't it? I wonder how it ends? :)
Thanks Linda-Yes, it was fun and I thought it would be a good hub because these are the things that make life better. Have a great weekend:)
I was cool with everything until you said you had gone to the ladies room and when you came out he was there. That right there creeped me out.
I am all for dreaming too. I hope I did not burst your bubble
..well here I am back then to flirt with one of my favorite twins - and to thank you very much for your support and commentary - which keeps the epi-man and Colin very inspired! I just finished watching my favorite show on CBS (Saturday night) - 48 Hours Mystery - (my other favorite being '60 Minutes') and it's just after 11pm here by the northern shores of Lake Erie here in Canada .... keeping warm by the blowing heat with Mister Gabriel and Little Miss Tiffy listening to Bob Marley and the Wailers and having a glass or two of red wine .....Hope you are well too and keep thinking good thoughts!
You didn't burst my bubble AT ALL JB. I guess that is really creepy. Actually, the whole thing was wierd and there was no way I was following some guy I didn't know. You are such an avid reader and I just want you to know that I REALLY APPRECIATE you reading my hubs. I loved your hub awards. You sure put a lot of work into that. Nice job:)
Hi Colin-Oh it sounds like your having a very relaxing evening with your cats. So glad you came back to flirt with me. I figured you'd still be working at your evening job. Guess what? I just watched 48 hours murder mystery too. I forgot that you like that show too. Wasn't it soo creepy. A Trucker Serial Killer. Thank goodness you have your two cats and I have my two dogs. Have a great rest of the evening my Canadian Prince:)
This was such a fun and interesting read!This stuff makes for a feel-good movie until that guy had the nerve to direct you to where he was heading.That was a complete turn-off!So what if he was a hunk? I sure hope that the next time you see him, he will do the right thing and introduce himself, as what a proper gentleman should do.
Just the same, thank's for sharing your story.God bless.
Hi minnetonka Twin,understand that men cannot just do without flirting,is just part of their creations 4rm Baba God.
Theseus-Thanks, I am so glad you enjoyed my little Holiday Gas Station experience. I was laughing when I read you thought it read like a feel good movie until made his hand gesture. So True! God Bless you too:)
Hi crystolite-And you men need to keep on flirting. It really did make my day a little brighter to know the opposite sex noticed me. Thanks for coming by:)
I got to follow twilight, best laugh Ive had in days...maybe weeks. Glad you didn't follow him, but a little flirt is no harm, if there's no husband on your arm.
Go back to the same gas station at the same time, same day of the week....you never know! That is, if you aren't involved with a man right now:) You just never know! I had a guy approach me at a gas station a few weeks ago...he had flirted with me at the grocery store a few months ago...he remembered me....I still wasn't interested, apparently...lol
Oh wow - he definitely should have introduced himself to you. Oh really what fun - love it!
I did really like your story, it was great.
It sounds to me like he was flirting alright !! You did the right thing not to follow him ...but it makes us girls feel good doesnt it ?
I enjoyed the read
LOl this was a kool story, good thing you didn't follow him, you can't trust anyone these days!
Love:)
Hi Polly. Yes, it did feel good for my ego to be noticed. No hubby on this arm. Thanks for taking time to come by:)
I hope your not being stocked azure-That's quite the coincidence.
Hi acaetnna. My nephew wonders if I walked so fast past him in the aisle that he didn't get the chance to introduce himself. HMMM, he could be right?? Maybe I'll have to go back on the same day like azure mentioned.
Thanks Sunny. Your always so nice and complimentary:)
It did feel good Loveslove. We all need to be noticed sometime.
Thanks for your kind words Emily. Ya, it was fun to be flirted with but no following strangers for me. LOL
Now this was really fun:-). I loved it - you just never know do you? It's the mystery that just may never end:-) thank you!
You will know when the right one comes along, when that person does everything right. God Bless You Precious Heart.
Thanks RealHousewife. Yes, it was a good ego stroke but I havn't gone out of my way to gas up at that Holiday Station. LOL
You have the kindest heart Stars. Why can't there more men like you out there?? (Boo Hoo)-God Bless you my friend.
Well if it wasn't a forever mystery - all the fun would just go right out the window;-)!
Exactly RealHousewife. We will just keep the mystery going in our minds.
Love can be found at the strangest places.Maybe just a guy who thought wow thats someone I want to get to know.I can't approach her or she will think I am too aggresive and freak her out.Remember he already seen you twice.Once at your car and then in the gas station.He was shy?Maybe you will meet again.He knew he saw someone beautiful when he saw you.Today you have to be careful and enjoy it for what it was a harmless sweet gesture of excitement and mystery and good vibes.Always trust your instincts.You were smart to go the other way.I wonder what would of happened if you noticed a guy you liked and thought he was cute.If you where him and he was you what would you do?Leave love at the gas station or wait to talk.I love the movie idea.YOu should go with it.I want the first tickets.Since I already had a preview.Great story.
You've got the first tickets my friend, DREAM ON. I know, it was cool but any smart guy knows I'm not gonna follow him. Who knows, I may see him again and I will slow down and let him talk. I have great intuition and will feel it out. You never know, he could be a soulmate but again, maybe not-Maybe he's a freak. I will be more open next time I bump into him. Thanks for your fun comment. Life is so fun having surprises.
It reminds me of a time when these guys kept honking at my friend and I at several red lights when we were cruising down town. I was 18 and found it kind of neat they were flirting with us. They motioned for me to roll my window down after about 3 or 4 stop lights and we did. They yelled these wonderful words at me.."Stupid girl turn your lights on"! Cute hub! You never know..
Sunnie
That is a very funny and cute story Sunnie Day. Hey, I bet it felt good before you figured out what they had to tell you. Thanks for reading my hub Sunnie. Hope your having a great weekend.
You are so very lucky to have a sister, something I never had. Then I married and had 3 boys. Although they are good sons, it 's not like having a daughter. I'm surprised to hear that you and your twin have the same academic interests. Isn't that unusual? Thank you for your story. Be very careful out there.
Hi mslizzee-I know, I feel so blessed to have a sister that I can say or do anything with. Not all twins are close, but we have always been eachother's soulmates. I have met other twins that don't get along or have much in common and I just think that is sad. I think this is one of God's greatest gifts because twins are a great example of unconditional love.
He probably was harmless. But I'm glad you went in the other direction. I think I would have too.
Ya, not too smart to follow a stranger that isn't saying anything but just gesturing and waving. Thanks for coming by.
Thats a wonderful story. I believe that is a usual thing to feel by a woman and I could say based on my experience that there is something electrifying happening when meeting a particular kind of people. I have a related story too.:D
Do tell Ron, Do tell. You have my curiosity peaked:)
Flirting is quite innocent sometimes, love this hub
Hi Darknlovely. I know, flirting is great. I wish I knew whether it was innocent or not. I guess siding on the safe side is probably best. Thanks for coming by:)
Oh the great unknow of a mystery man... That my dear is the stuff that romance novels are made of.
Enjoy the memory of it, the handsome confident smile of a stranger, the flush of excitement and the thrill of possible danger:)
Ez Kay@ Yes, in this day in age, it wouldn't have been smart to meet up. Thanks for commenting.
Nighthag@ It was fun to be flirted with, even if he was an axe murderer. LOL
Hi, what a great way to start the day! lol! I think he was probably harmless, in fact he probably delighted in making you squirm! haha! this reminded me of the day I went into my bank, went to the cash point on the wall and suddenly realised that the man, That man, the one my mum always wanted me to marry, was stood beside me, I smiled and he leaned down and said, 'we should take this money and elope, you know I always liked you' my face turned red, I mumbled something, goodness knows what and legged it out the door! haha! so much for age bringing wisdom and serenity! my friend actually had an experience similar to you, only she was holding a chicken! hee hee! seriously, she had just bought it, her jumper was covered in paint and she had no makeup! she never lived it down!
What great stories Nell. Was this man at the bank someone you went to high school with? That is such a cute story! Also loved the one about your friend getting flirted with as she held a chicken. It's always fun to know your still looked at by the opposite sex, no matter how old you are or marital status may be. I am so glad you enjoyed my little escapade at the gas station. LOL
Well, I too enjoyed your flirting story :) Very funny. I don't trust men at gas stations though, lol. Thanks for sharing and voted up!
Hi Emily-I know-it was fun to be flirted with but the gas station thing was a tad weird and unsettling. If he had spoken to me and let me in on his thoughts I would have had more to go on. The fact that he just waved me on like I would just follow him was a red flag and of course I didn't follow him. In this day in age that would just be asking for trouble.
It started out as a flirt but the guy have to much ego to actually make a connection. Pointing is the direction he was heading hahahaha guess it has work for him before. Am glad that you took the opposite road :)
LOL-thanks for your comment cebutouristspot. I'm glad I went the other way too. It was a weird experience. Hope your having a great weekend.
nightbear Level 1 Commenter 15 months ago
Interesting, flattering, but potentially deadly in this day and age. You did what you needed and should have done. good for you